Bessel van der Kolk M.D. is the founder and medical diretor of the trauma center in Brookline, Massachusetts. He is also a professor of psychiatry at Boston Universty School of Medicine and director of the National Complex Trauma Treatment Network. - From the Body Keeps Score
"Over the past three decades psychiatric medications have become a mainstay in our culture, with dubious consequences. Consider the case of antidepressants. If they were indeed as effective as we have been led to believe, depression should now have become a minor issues in our socirty. Instead, even as antidepressant use continues to increase, it has not made a dent in hospital admissions for depression."
Medication is clearly effective, just as surgeries are as well. But, thriving requires more. .
"We labeled our veterans with all sorts of diagnoses-alcoholism, substance abuse, depression, mood disorder, even schizophernia- and we tried every treatment in our textbooks. But for all our efforts it became clear that we were actually accomplishing very little. The powerful drugs we prescribed often left the men in such a fog that they could barely function. We encouraged them t talk about the precise details of a traumatic event, often inadvertently triggered a full-blown flashback." .
"For real change to take place, the body needs to learn that the danger has passed and to live in the reality of the present. Our search to understand trauma has led us to think differently not only about the structure of the mind but also about the processes by which it heals. "
I am so glad to see some new people here!
I really appreciate your support and time. .
I plan on honoring that by sharing everything I know about helping people turn burnout into breakthroughs. .
I am so tired of seeing passionate people leave their careers due to burnout.
I have seen too many practitioners, teachers and leaders become overwhelmed and move on. .
I have had my life changed in a sentence by 20ish people over the years. Their passion and example kept me going when I needed it most. Their words of encouragement made me feel included and safe. Their support and understanding of my mistakes gave me the space to accept myself. .
The world needs passionate, caring people. Fear is our default setting. Other people flip that switch for us. Sometimes without their knowing. Sometimes even without our own knowing.
We are wildly adaptive creatures, our resilience is awesome.
But, we need a few things to operate all of those things require us feeling safe. .
Some of us are have a high tolerance for risk, but or resilience requires safety.
When we do not feel safe our body is blocked from its naturally restorative states. .
When we live there long enough we feel it. .
I felt the chronic pain, the anxiousness, the loneliness, the why bother, the lethargy. We all do, at times. Most I am convinced more than I can imagine. And yet they endure. We all could use a little help most times, and a lot of help sometimes. We are social creatures by nature, even if not by nurture. .
Who inspired you recently?
Here are some people who inspire me.
We shut people out when we move from our #VentralVagal pathway towards our #Sympathetic pathway, fight or flight.
This can come from an #unconscious association, from a change in our #BloodGlucose levels, or from a social dynamic. It takes less resources to shut others out that it does to regulate our nervous system in that moment. This is a super effective strategy. We come in to trouble when it becomes our only strategy to navigate our relationships, internal experience, or current project.
I see lots of people benefiting from energy psychology techniques, breathing patterns, and keeping up on their sleep and insulin hygiene.
What strategies do you use to get back to neutral, or the present, or ventral vagal?
I get stuck often.
It is frustrating.
You are making progress, having fun and seeing change. .
Then IT happens.
It is different for everyone.
How IT feels is just as varied.
Why IT happens is almost impossible to really be certain of.
What you do about IT is where the magic happens.
We are all doing our best with the skills we have.
I love seeing those skills developed and built upon.
Often times this takes turning concepts on their heads.
Working from the bottom up.
Or from the inside out, or even the outside in. .
Whatever works, is aligned with your values and returns more than it costs (in the long run).
I'm a big believer in staying curious and seeing what happens. .
How do you get unstuck?
There are times when we need a hug.
The easiest way to get is to GIVE.
Touch is a powerful marker of healing.
Feeling safe enough to be held by another is an intimate act.
This act is one example of a regulated autonomic system.
Access to your bodies natural healing process is found in regulation.
Many of you do not enjoy hugs, or many types of touch.
I am not by development a hugger. For me it is a learned skill.
But, as I continue to find other means of regulation Hugging is becoming easier and just a bit more enjoyable.
Are You a Hugger?
Our Subconscious, Body, Imagination and assumptions are interdependent systems that work seamlessly to create your reality and keep you feeling safe.
We often attempt change and motivation from a Top Down perspective attempting to will ourselves to action.
This is a strategy but, if it fails and we shame ourselves thinking ourselves lazy or stupid. Choosing to belie we are weak willed. Blaming ourselves instead of our strategy.
The true power is when our Will works with our power. True power is when Conscious works with our Subconscious.
Like a rider and a horse.
It can be tempting to beat a horse, you may see an immediate change, but if that is your only strategy you will end up beating a dead horse.
Maybe it is time for a change.
Where you able to sleep last night quickly calmly and deeply?
Did you wake up rested and energized?
Have you ignored text, emails and calls today?
Did you get a laugh in at lunch?
1/4 You Got This.
2/4 It is nap/snack/laugh time.
3/4 Think about calling a friend, taking a walk, petting a dog.
4/4 Lets Talk.
9 Ways That Humor Heals
1. Humor combats fear.
2. Humor comforts.
3. Humor relaxes.
4. Humor reduces pain.
5. Humor boosts the immune system.
6. Humor reduces stress.
7. Humor spreads happiness.
8. Humor cultivates optimism.
9. Humor helps communication.
Our Social Engagement System Requires a Feeling of safety, Humor is a sign that we are able to feel safe enough to share a moment. These moments are important to your bodies ability to cope with everyday stress. Often when Stakes are high and we are in a moment of overwhelm a bit of humor from a person we trust can reign us back in.